How Christians Should Treat Gay People

by Johnny Lee Clary

Being gay or bisexual seems to be the "in" thing right now, especially when it comes to the youth. It is estimated that 10% of the population in the USA is gay, or apprx. 25 million..

That is a lot of people and they are not going away. OK, so as a Christian, how does one deal with this situation?

Lately, I have been taking a lot of time and rethinking how I have been witnessing to people. I have been very successful in winning the lost into the kingdom in my church meetings, but even if I am winning several thousand into the kingdom, there is always room for improvement. If I can win a few thousand, then how about changing it to hundreds of thousands and then into millions? I have sought God and asked Him to help me improve in areas that I need improvement in.

Everywhere I look no matter where I am in the world, the issue of homosexuality is on the front burner. Almost everyone I know, knows at least one person who is gay, whether that be a friend, relative, neighbor, or co-worker. Ok, so how do we as Christians deal with gay people? I will try to provide the right answers.

Anyone who is a Christian should agree that being gay is not OK. The Bible says “For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another: men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.
          Romans 1:26,27 (KJV)


Some of you might say, “God gave them up? But I have a friend or a family member that is gay! ” Makes no difference. Either you believe the Bible or you don’t. I have relatives that are alcoholics. Does that mean they are not in sin because they are my family member? Of course not! Same thing with being gay. Being gay is a sin and also a sickness. The Bible makes it clear that it is sin and it also says sin is sickness.

Now I am not going to get into a big long tirade about why being gay is wrong. I am going to give you scriptures to prove it is and then we move on to deal with the issue at hand. Here are some passages where the Bible says it is wrong, in addition to the one I just gave you.

God's Word is clear that only a man and a woman can enter into marriage, and this is the foundation for the family. Genesis 2:24 reads, "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." Malachi 2:15 says that God made a man and his wife one because "He seeks godly offspring."

"For although they knew God, they neither glorified Him as God nor gave thanks to Him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened… Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another… Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion. Furthermore, since they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, He gave them over to a depraved mind, to do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity…" Romans 1:20-29 (NIV)

"Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable." Leviticus 18:22 (NIV)

"Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God." 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NIV)


God’s word never changes. It is still the same today as it was yesterday. Regardless of what modern promoters of "gay liberation" might wish to believe, sexual perversions are not inherited genetically but rather are learned behaviors and willful sins. Like alcoholism and other such sins of the flesh, they may become very difficult to give up for those who have been a slave to them, but the good news is God is able to give deliverance to any who sincerely desire true freedom and salvation.


So how are Christians supposed to handle this? I mean yes, there are people who have gay family members and gay friends. First of all, every Christian has a duty to hate the sin, but LOVE the sinner. No church has the right to kick someone out of church or tell them they are not welcome to attend there because they are gay. Suppose you had a relative that was an alcoholic or was hooked on pills, and they came to church. How would YOU feel if the church told your relative that they were not welcome to attend services because they had a drug or a drinking problem? You wouldn’t like that. Same thing with gays. They have an addiction to sin. They need help. How are they going to get it if they are pushed away by the church?  We certainly need to let gay people know that God’s word says He does not approve of their lifestyle, but at the same time we need to let them know that we love them with the love of Jesus and we want to do everything possible to help them receive deliverance which comes through the Lord Jesus Christ.


I say invite them in or compel them to come into the House of the Lord. Here they will get the word and we can pray for them and pray the spirits of lesbianism and homosexuality be bound. Here the gay person can get the teachings of the Bible. Most gays do not have a clear knowledge of what God’s word says about homosexuality and they have been deceived by other gays who claim to be Christians but who have twisted God’s word around to try and justify a lifestyle that God says is wrong. Gays need to know the truth! “And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free!John 8:32


Most people in society look upon homosexuals with disdain and disgust. It is important that we do not do that. We have to show them love and let them see that we do care about them and we want to help them. However, we must be very careful not to let the person who is gay, mistake our willingness to show them compassion as some sort of acceptance of their lifestyle. That would be sending them the wrong message. Gay people desire more than ever to have their lifestyle accepted by society. We as Christians have a responsibility to encourage gay people to repent and ask Jesus for deliverance. We must encourage gays NOT to continue living the gay lifestyle for it may well cost them their eternal souls. Instead, they need to be "loved into the kingdom," being delivered first of all from their rebellion against God, then to Christ for salvation and cleansing.


Notice Paul's testimony concerning the very real possibility of such deliverance:

Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, …shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.
          I Corinthians 6:9-11 (KJV)


When there is true repentance and the sin is forsaken, then such a person should be lovingly received into the fellowship of believers (or back into that fellowship, if previously excommunicated SEE Galatians 6:1), like any other repentant and believing sinner. This is the example given in the case of the incestuous Corinthian:

Sufficient to such a man is this punishment, which was inflicted of many. So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow. Wherefore I beseech you that you would confirm your love toward him.
II Corinthians 2:6-8 (KJV)


In spite of great pressure today from left-wing liberals to get homosexuality recognized as an acceptable--if not even preferable--life style, the Bible makes it plain that it is really unnatural and it is a sinful lifestyle that must be rejected by true Christians.

At the same time, we cannot forget that Christ died for their sins, as well as ours. They are still objects of His sacrificial love, and we should seek earnestly to bring them to Him for cleansing and deliverance. Jesus is the cure for homosexuality and lesbianism. Be careful how you treat those in the gay lifestyle. Remember YOUR sins before YOU came to Christ? What would you have done if people in the church that were claiming to be Christians, would have called you names and gave you looks of disgust? You probably would not have attended that church and may not be serving the Lord today. Put yourself in the shoes of the gay person. Do you think calling them names and showing them disgust will make them want to come to serve the same Jesus that you serve?


Is the way you treat lesbians and homosexuals in the name of the Lord, making them want to run to Jesus or away from Him? Think about it.